Rinse and Repeat

Recently I just had a conversation (argument) over how many time you can repeat yourself before your response comes out in a loud, irritated, and (as my husband would say) nagging voice? For instance, and I will not exaggerate, I was having a conversation with my husband. He was in the shower and just to clarify, we have no door on our shower. I would say a sentence...he would ask me to repeat it...I would repeat...he would answer. This happened three times in a row. Finally I asked him to wait until I got in the shower. When I got in, he got out. I thought to myself, "Okay, so I thought we were going to have a conversation, but that's fine.". So I tried to continue the conversation because, after all, he was out of the shower, away from the running water on his face. He should be able to hear me now. Well, turns out he couldn't. So another three sentences were send and each time I had to repeat them. So finally my last response was loud and with a tone that says, "Come On!! Listen to Me already!!". As a result of my tone, I got a verbal lashing. Our conversation ended. My husband is now mad at me. I am the bad guy and apparently a nag. Boo Hoo.

Is it really too much for me to ask for a little attention? All I wanted was a conversation with my husband. The kids are asleep in bed. It is our time now. I get it that he couldn't hear me while he was in the shower. I understand that. It was irritating but I understand that. However, when he is out of the shower and already dried and dressed and not more than ten feet away from me, why do I still have to repeat everything that I say? Maybe he still had shampoo in his ears. Of course I was told that I was exaggerating, over reacting, disrespectful, and that I sounded like a nag. (lovely) I guess if he thinks I was exaggerating then he really must have not been listening to me. So I ask my fellow readers...how much patience and repeating do we need to give? Is it too much to ask for listening respect? Can we just have a conversation?! Apparently not tonight.